The Problem of Domestic Violence


A problem has become known and to many, they feel that it\'s about time
that the general public has taken notice. This problem has been a taboo for
centuries and in the mid nineties it has chosen to let itself be known, the
problem that I am talking about is domestic violence, it has ruined families,
and demoralized the victims for years and now because of the "trial of the
century" we finally are allowed to discuss it in detail, without fear of
reprisal, now we get to familiarize ourselves with it and eventually after we
get to know all about it we can, through treatment, get rid of it. In this
paper, I will discuss problems with the so called epidemic of domestic violence.
This entire paper will be about domestic violence, and because of that I
feel it is important to note that "in most families men and women do not engage
in physically abusive behavior" (The Brown U.), but because the media feels that
it is their public duty to deceive us into believing that this problem is an
"epidemic" (Domestic V.) we feel that, that is the case. Webster\'s dictionary
defines epidemic as "a rapid spreading of a disease; to many people at the same
time", this is not the case with domestic violence, one it didn\'t just happen
overnight, it has just been popularized overnight, domestic violence has been
going on from as far back as anyone can remember and probably farther than that,
and two, this is not affecting many people at the same timem, because, as I\'ve
stated before, "in most families men and women do not engage in physically
abusive behavior". If you as the reader gets anything out of this paper, it is
important to me as the writer, that you find that, while domestic violence is a
major problem for some families, it is by no means an epidemic.
The major reason domestic violence has become so widespread over the
last couple of years is because of the O. J. Simpson trial, as one person put it
"the O. J. Simpson case would do for domestic violence what Anita Hill did for
sexual harassment" (Domestic V.). The trial of the century brought a much
needed attention to a issue that for too long was pushed to the back burner;
domestic violence was a major issue in the case and it became evident, through
the mass publicity of the case, that women weren\'t crying wolf all these years,
because of "the murder of Nicole Brown ... the media would focus squarely on and
engage in an unprecedented and lengthy dialogue about the issue of domestic
violence" (Domestic V.), it seems to always take something tragic for us to
listen, but from this particular tragedy allot of good has come out of it and we
can take heart in the fact that Nicole Brown did not die in vain.
Why do men abuse in the first place? That question has allot more than
one answer to it and among them are "he might be under stress, he was beaten as
a child, he lost his job ..." (Domestic V. for B.), the possibilities are
endless, women or the abused has always look at these reasons as excuses for the
abusers to justify their doings, but sometimes men, or the abusers, have a
legitimate case in the reasons why they batter, some, not all, but some men
cannot help it, like the alcoholic who cannot stop drinking or the compulsive
gambler who can\'t stop gambling, an abuser hits because something clicked inside
of him when he was younger and now he can\'t stop. The reasons why someone might
find it appeasing to hit someone else is, he might of been raised in an abusive
household, maybe the abuser was abused, physically, or made to feel inferior by
someone else and now he is taking it out on the person who he feel he can beat,
his significant other. After all is said and done we must remember that the
ultimate choice to become an abuser was made by the person himself, but like the
alcoholic and the compulsive gambler with "intensive" treatment they can be
helped to control their problem.
It\'s weird and even sad that with "over 4 million domestic assaults on
women last year" (Domestic V. for B.) it took the O. J. Simpson trial to finally
illustrate the problem that some families have problems and a problem that
caused "2000-4000 women killed each year" (Family V.). When we as the