Seth Jones
Dr. Jones
Eng 101
22 October 2016
Loyalty: The Foundation of Personal Connection
The best way to prove that people will always be there for each other is through loyalty. Author Veronica Roth said, "I belong to the people I love, and they belong to me--they, and the love and loyalty I give them, form my identity far more than any word or group ever could". The amount of loyalty given to a person holds the power and ability to influence a person's whole perspective on someone else. Without loyalty, how can a person tell if someone will be there for them or not? A loyal person has their friend's back no matter what, and both know that they can count on one another for anything. It builds trust and sometimes even an unbreakable bond between two people. Unfortunately, loyalty is sometimes lost and most of the time from that point on, the trust is forever broken. Although, loyalty is defined by Merriam-Webster's Dictionary as "a feeling of strong support for someone or something", the word goes beyond this denotation and also means being trustworthy, dependable, and having the ability to be loyal in multiple different ways.
Loyalty is being supportive in a person's actions and decisions, despite personal opinions. It goes beyond the simple knowledge of saying that a person will be loyal, but by proving that loyalty through actions. In regards to supporting someone, a person's loyalty means more than just saying they will be there for that person because anyone can do that. True loyalty is supporting that person through everything and proving loyalty through actions. Supporting someone through everything and proving loyalty to that person over time can create a deep level of trust between those two people.
Trust is the basic foundation of loyalty because without it, that loyalty has no meaning. Loyalty is built up over time by trust. According to J.M. Barbalet, a sociologist, "It is precisely the feeling of loyalty which maintains relationships when they might otherwise collapse, and which assumes, implicitly or explicitly, that irrespective of present circumstances, the thing to which one is loyal will be viable in the future". As the anchor in a relationship between two people of any kind, people would never be able to continue that connection without trust. Whether it is a friend, spouse, or family member, trust is necessary to show that they will always be there. Additionally, without being able to trust one another, how can one stay loyal? When a person believes that someone will stay loyal to them, they are putting their trust within that person. They trust that they will never turn their back, never break a promise, and never hurt each other. Loyalty is built and proven over time through trust. With this information, it can be concluded that loyalty is certainly not faithlessness. When a person puts their trust in another, they also put their faith. Believing someone is loyal is the same as putting faith into that person. Therefore, loyalty is not losing faith and is certainly not betrayal. In simpler words, it is standing by someone's side through thick and thin.
Along with support and trust, dependability is also part of the backbone of loyalty. After a certain amount of time spent counting on someone, people start to become dependent on one another. They begin to look to that person for clarity and direction in life. Because the loyalty has already been proven, they usually have that sense of dependency built up to know that they will be there for them. Unfortunately, sometimes good relationships come to an unexpected and detrimental end. When a friendship is ruined and a person can no longer be depended on, there is a forever impact on both sexes that leaves them with a feeling of being rejected and therefore, the loyalty is completely lost (Bowker et al.). The effects of losing one's loyalty can be so hurtful and dangerous. Not only is the loyalty gone between those two people, but the odds of those people having the ability to truly be loyal to someone else decreases. Once loyalty is lost it takes something extreme to bring it back. People sometimes can be mentally affected by a loss