PRO-GAY MARRIAGE IN AMERICA


America is the land of liberty where everyone has freedom of choice of lifestyle, religion etc. America has always believed in equality with a few exceptions from history which were resolved. Segregation is one of those exceptions. African-Americans until 1965 were passionately hated by whites. Even after the legislation was passed saying that all men are equal, America still struggled to adapt to this change. Today America would not do such a thing as discriminating against people because of skin color. The United States has been a model of democratic principles to the world for centuries. However, currently this world superpower is having a major dispute on whether or not to legalize gay marriages and this heated issue has divided Americans and caused the country to closely re-examine its principles and ideals.


In America today, at the political level there is a heated debate on whether there should be a ban to same-sex marriages or not. Recently in his last State of the Union Address, President Bush supported the ban on gay marriage saying that he wants to “prevent the meaning of marriage from being changed forever” (NY Times). What is the meaning of marriage? According to David Brooks of the NY Times, “marriage joins two people in a sacred bond. It demands that they make an exclusive commitment to each other and thereby takes two discrete individuals and turns them into kin.” He also said that “gays and lesbians are banned from marriage and forbidden to enter into this powerful and ennobling institution.” (NY Times). In Las Vegas two people can get married in ten minutes at a shabby chapel. They don’t even need to wear dresses, have guests or even be sober; it can be as untraditional as a couple wants. Hasn’t America already defaced the meaning of marriage suggested by President Bush? On television there are reality shows in which people get married for money. One example is “My Big Fat Obnoxious Fiance”. The basis is that a woman must marry a fat, hairy, disgraceful man in order to get $1million. The family members believe that the daughter is really getting married and is shocked at her choice. Here a woman will go to the extent of putting her family in pain and crush their dreams for just money. This is a really terrible thing to do to anyone and yet it is on the television so that other Americans can laugh their heads off. Hasn’t the true meaning of marriage been torn apart when a price is put on emotions and we enjoy it? Ordinary humans do not have the power to judge and decide how people should live their lives. By attempting to ban same-sex marriage, the government is robbing gays of this sacred union of which no man can possibly fathom the meaning.


Since biblical times gays have existed but were ashamed because they were the subject of discrimination. Today however, in America, gays are not belittled as they were back then. One’s sexual orientation used to be kept private but now it is open in America more than ever. Every large city has a small community for gay people. Many gays live in cities like New York, Los Angeles, Washington, Las Vegas and such because it is in these areas that they are not discriminated so much. There are gay newspapers, gay movies and shows, gay bands etc. One popular show is Bravo’s “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy” which is a hit among a lot of Americans— both homosexuals and heterosexuals. In New York City, The Harvey Milk School, a school for gays, was opened recently. The reason for this is because gay youngsters were made fun of, beaten and treated horribly by their heterosexual peers. In the past there were schools specially founded for black kids because of racist reasons. Has America gone a step backward? Haven’t we seen that segregation was soon abolished and everyone was united? If we know the outcome of such a situation why then would we want to repeat it again? It is not fair for kids to feel left out because of their sexual orientation. A gay kid wants to be equal and treated as any other kid. Is that too much