Personal Letter


Hey man, how are you doing? Hey I heard you and your wife are expecting your first child! Congratulations! I am so happy for you and Hannah. Man, being your best friend, I hope you don’t mind me giving you some pointers. I know that you’ll both be good parents, but you know how I am!

Dude there are three parenting styles; authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive. In the authoritative style the parents are affectionate and loving. They provide control when needed and they set limits. They also allow the child to express their own point of view, and they engage in verbal give and take. Authoritarian parents demand unquestioning obedience. They use punishment to control behavior, and are less likely to be affectionate. In general their children tend to be unhappy, distrustful, ineffective, and often become dependant adults. Permissive parents are the types who make few demands. They are often thought to be ignoring their children. They are, on the other hand, warm and responsive. My advice would be to stay with the median which is authoritative. Your child will be better off for it. They will have guidelines, but they will be loved and listened to.

Nick, as your kid grows he will have many emotional needs and you will need to use healthy communication to your advantage. In infancy (the first 18 months) your baby will have the conflict of trust vs. mistrust. To make a positive impression on your child you need to be there for him. You need to that sense of predictability and trust in the environment. You have to encourage independence and self sufficiency, and you must instill self-confidence. In early childhood(3 to 6 years)