Parental Pressure within High School Students

I. I became interested in this topic because my entire academic life has
been filled with pressure from my parents. This pressure was mainly in school
and grades, and in high school, the amount of pressure increased dramatically.
This is because my parents now realized that everything in high school counts
towards college. When I first came to high school, my grades were not as good
as they were in middle school. I needed a little time to adapt to high school
before I could improve my grades. During this time, my parents became upset
because I brought home a report card that was not as good as they were expecting.
Then I really noticed the pressure getting higher and higher. I did not only
notice this with me, but I noticed this with many of my friends. I heard
phrases like “My parents are going to kill me” and “I\'m going to be grounded for
10 years” many times so when the opportunity to do research on this came up, I
chose this as my subject.

II. How does parental pressure influence students in high school? If there
is an influence, is it positive or negative? I would like to do research on
this because it raised my curiosity. For me personally, I do better in school
if I am calm and have little pressure, but there might be students out there at
Ramapo High School that think differently. These are some of the things that I
will try to find out through this I-Search.

III. At the beginning of my search, I had a really hard time finding
secondary sources. First, I went to the school library. Since the school
library has this computer program called BELS, there was no need to go to the
other libraries. BELS is a program that lists all the books in Franklin Lakes,
Wyckoff, and Oakland. It is a network that unites the two public libraries and
the one in Indian Hills. I then went to an article search. I had no luck here
either. When I went home, I went on America Online to try to find some articles
or any secondary sources. I went to the article search and still found nothing.
After a few days, I asked the school librarian to help me find some books. She
guided me to a section that had books about social problems. Luckily, I found
two books on families and parents. These were two good books, but I still
needed at least one more to fulfill my requirement. I went to the Special
Services department and talked to a person there. She gladly offered help. She
said that she would look through her stuff and try to find what she could on
this subject. Then she told me to come back after school to pick up whatever
she had. I returned after the school day ended and went back to the Special
Services department. She was waiting there with two books and an article.
Although I found that one of the books that I was given was not a real good help,
the others were. My secondary sources were finished and now I had to move on to
my primary sources. These were much easier because I did not need to search for
anything. I interviewed two classmates during some free time I had in class,
and put out a survey. These also helped a lot in giving me information I could
use. Since I had all of my sources, I then proceeded with the notecards.

IV. Do parents of high school students put too much pressure on their
children? The students would probably say yes, and the parents would probably
say no. Parents would probably say that they just want the best for their
children. Sometimes, though, this “good cause” leads into disaster when the
parents take it too far. This could be by the fault of the parent or the child.
This means that either the child provokes the parent by doing badly in school,
or the parents do not become satisfied with the child\'s achievement and takes
over their lives.
When the parents concentrate on grades alone, they become like a
dictator and not a friend. They do not care about anything else such as social
problems and sports (Webb pg.24). This causes the child to overachieve. This
means that the child thinks that the only way he/she can get the affection and
respect of his/her parents is to bring home good grades. At this point,
anything that