How to Have A Joyous Marriage!

by Roderick C. Meredith

Here are "keys\' to help make your marriage special! These insights and tested
principles will help you build your marriage into a precious relationship of joy
and beauty.

HJM4 Edition 1.3, May 1996

This booklet is not to be sold! It has been provided as a free public
educational service by the Global Church of God

© 1993 GLOBAL CHURCH OF GOD All rights reserved. Printed in the U.S.A.

Editor in Chief
Roderick C. Meredith Executive Editor
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With tears in their eyes, dozens and scores of women have told me how miserable
their marriages were. They obviously wish with all their hearts that things were
better, but they don\'t know what to do.

"My husband won\'t really open up and talk with me about our problems", many
women say.

"My psychologist told me to go have an affair and I would feel better," one
woman said. "But I know that\'s wrong and I just can\'t do that!"

In our "now generation," most folks don\'t think of the long-term consequences of
their actions, and our acceptance of "quickie" marriages and divorces only
compounds the problem. Why try to work through all the problems in your marriage
when you can just divorce and feel better right now?

In an outstanding recent article, former Secretary of Education, William J.
Bennett, made these insightful comments: "...but during the same recent 30-year
period there has been a 560% increase in violent crime; a 419% increase in
illegitimate births; a quadrupling in divorce rates; a tripling of the
percentage of children living in single-parent homes; more than a 200% increase
in the teenage suicide rate; and a drop of almost 80 points in SAT scores....!"

If you wish to avoid the misery of this foolish generation, then read carefully
and prayerfully the pages to follow. For we are going to discuss seven vital
keys to building and enriching the very basis of all decent society--your
marriage and your family.

I. Commitment is basic

The expression "till death do us part" may seem old fashioned or passé to many
young people. But those same couples may be suffering loneliness, emptiness and
misery if they leave that concept out of their marriages.

Yet today, most people take for granted the modern option of leaving their mate
and forsaking their marriage vows. Many couples plan for the eventuality of
divorce by having a lawyer write up a prenuptial agreement. Then they promise to
stay together for life, but insist on acting "prudently" to protect their assets
in case the marriage doesn\'t last.

This idea may seem wise and prudent, but is it really?


The common acceptance of the "escape hatch" of an easy divorce creates a vicious
cycle. The more some people divorce, the easier it seems for others to do
likewise. And the breakdown of a society has begun!

Nearly all thoughtful men and women realize that a stable home and family is
basic for a decent society. As our homes and marriages come apart, so the
wildness, ruthlessness and violence in our society will increase.

It is vital that we all grasp that the basis for marriage itself is the supreme
purpose of our Creator! That\'s right! If you leave the great God who made us
male and female out of the picture, then human reason is the only basis for
anything--and absolute chaos will ensue.

It is God who said:

"Let us make man in our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion
over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over
all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth." So God
created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and
female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to them, "Be
fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish
of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on
the earth" (Genesis 1:26-28).

God instituted marriage

We see here that it is God who made us male and female. And His first command to
humans was to "multiply"--obviously implying marriage and home.

God the Father