Gay & Lesbian Marriages: Should they be Legal?


Marriage and Family

March 1, 2004

With all of the media coverage and the controversy in California approving the legal marriages between gay and lesbian couples, its no wonder why literally thousands of couples young and old flocked to the state to take advantage of this once in a lifetime opportunity for legal unity between the ones they chose to love. No one should be denied the legal right to be married just because of their sexual preference. This has been the major topic of debate in society for years.

For years, opponents of gay and lesbian relationships have made comments such as “If they wanted to they could fall in love with someone of the opposite sex, and just stop being gay”. But in fact, love is love. No one can tell someone else who or what to love or that what and how they feel about someone is not real. Or just because the love is between what some societies deems as “un-normal” such as relationships or the love between two women or men is mattered or valued as much as what some close minded, old-fashioned individuals think is considered normal or “Freakish”. Love isn’t a planned


thing and true love just happens, regardless if it is between a man and woman, a man and man or between two women. Everyone has preferences as to whom and why they are attracted to someone else. Some people like tall men or slender women, some like girls with big breasts or big bottoms, some look for a persons financial assets or what color some ones hair or eyes are and with gay and lesbian couple, all of those things still apply but they just happen to be of the same sex. It’s human nature to look and like and eventually fall in love. It’s the individual choices that we make that effect us for the rest of our lives. And most of us make choices that we believe are in our best interest, regardless of what society thinks or believes is considered “the norm”.

Some opponents also state that some states allow domestic partnerships and that it should be enough to satisfy the intended union between gay and lesbian couples. The downfall to that is that if the “partners” are not given the same legal rights of what is considered the “normal” husband and wife couple then it isn’t enough. One argument is that men and women who live together don’t get the same rights as married couples either, but the difference with that is that the “normal” male and female couple that lives together choose to live together and not get married. Gay and lesbian couples don’t have that choice unless they can drop everything and afford to fly to California today, take time off work to stand in the ridiculously long lines and have enough money to spend the night and even possibly two nights away from home. Then there is the chance that the California Supreme Court will step in and reverses the ruling that has allowed for these


so long awaited, wanted and deserved legal unions in the near future. Therefore making all of their marriages null and void and telling the gay community that their time and hard earned money isn’t worth it because of what some deem as “un normal” or “not natural”. Imagine living with someone for years, having a committed relationship between you and the other person, building a life together, acquiring things such as cars, houses, personal property. Now imagine that one of you has passed on unexpectedly not leaving a will or any formal documents leaving all of acquired items to the other person. Now imagine being told that just because you were a domestic partner and not legally married, that you are entitled to nothing the other person has left behind. No retirement, no health benefits, no social security, no property, no assets nothing. Doesn’t seem right does it? It doesn’t, but with domestic partnerships not being legal, the chosen partner has no rights to anything. If the family is a kind, loving, and an understanding family, then the house, property and assets would probably not be a problem, but if