Friendship

When I think about what makes someone a good friend, I
think about all the characteristics of my own friends. My
personal definition of a friend, is someone who is always
looking out for me, and will help me if I’m in trouble. A
friend has to be someone I trust and who trusts me in
return. Another important characteristic in a friend is
someone who I can talk to, and make me laugh.

One of the most important traits of a friend, is someone
who will help you if you need it. One personal experience I
had with this was when my friends, Mark, Steve, and I we
all out driving around late at night. We were on our way
home from going up to my camp at the lake, it was four in
the morning, and we were all tired. I was driving my car
and we had just gotten off the Northway when I ran over a
glass bottle and my tire popped. I didn’t know what to do.
We had no money, and were stranded. Millions of thoughts
were racing through my mind: what would I tell my mom,
how could we get it fixed, and most importantly how could
I stay out of trouble. My friend Mark called up his brother
to come and tow the car. His actions that night made me
realized that a true friend would takes risks for each other.

A strong friendship also depends upon mutual trust. If you
can’t trust each other then it is impossible to establish a
strong relationship. In the past, I have been able to tell my
friends personal feelings, and know that they would keep
secrets to themselves. One time my friend and I were riding
on my friend James’ lawnmower and we hit the side of the
garage. We promised each other that we would take it to
the grave. Even though we should have eventually told
someone, we kept it to ourselves.

Another quality I like to have in a friend, is someone who
can make me laugh. A perfect example of this is my friend
Bob. Some of the comments he would say would be so
outrageous; I couldn’t help but laugh. One time I traveled
to Montreal with my friends, and the entire four-hour drive
I spent laughing. Bob and I sat in the back seat cracking
jokes the whole time. This is important because it is good
to know that regardless of the mood, or situation I’m in, a
good friend can make me laugh.

When I asked other students their thought on friendship, I
noticed that my opinion was similar to others. Everyone
was drawn to people who they can just talk to for awhile
and not become sick of, or bored with. A lot of people
thought that someone who will stand up for you makes an
excellent friend. I agreed with most of the responses I was
getting from my friends and family. My friend Mike said
"someone who has a lot in common with you." Mike also
told me about an instance when he met someone
snowboarding at a mountain and instantly became friends
with him. Mike and his friend went snowboarding every
chance they could get. To this day they still go
snowboarding together every season. Even though it does
help if you have a lot in common, I don’t feel that common
interests are very important. One of my closest friends,
Steve, is the complete opposite of me. Regardless, we still
can just talk about random things and we both have a good
time. I will talk about my interests, and he will talk about
things he is interested in. Now that we have been friends
for so long, we have drawn each other to our opposite past
times.

My friend Dan replied to the above question with "[a friend
is] someone who is loyal to you and respects you." I had
never thought about how important respect was to a
friendship; it is clearly one of the most important qualities. If
someone respects you that means they genuinely think you
are a good person, and to me that is very important.

Based on my own personal experience and asking my
peers questions, I was shown new qualities in friends that I
don’t usually look for. I compared these qualities to ones I
look for in a friend. I came to the conclusion that a good
friend is someone who has the same feelings on what
makes a good friend as you do.

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