Existence of Man

For centuries man has grappled with the riddle of what it means to be a
person. But the questions Who is man? and What is the meaning of life? are
still unanswered. Yet, while man is still a long way from arriving at any
acceptable definitions, there is deep within everyone the hint of an idea of
what it means to be a whole person, that is happy, functioning and fulfilled.
So, throughout history man has made a continuous search to find out what makes
him whole. Every person is different so the special situation in which one
person finds fulfillment can\'t work for everyone. But in the lives of those who
have found fulfillment there is a universal pattern. The universal pattern is
that those who have found fulfillment have had a willingness to accept change
and take risks. Conversely, those who have not found wholeness are characterized
by an unconquerable desire to be safe, to be out of danger and to avoid risk.
The first step in the search for identity is to answer the question, How
do you see yourself? In the play No Exit by Jean Paul Sartre Estelle loses
sight of her identity. She says "When I can\'t see myself, I begin to wonder if
I really and truly exist." What a man sees himself as in the mirror largely
determines his actions during the day. Estelle had to look into the "mirror" of
men to confirm her identity. A man is the number one determining factor in
discovering who he is. Each individual must understand that he is responsible
for his own pain, misery, unhappiness, or for his own joy. Man is not a product
of what people have done or are now doing to us. Man has the power to become
whatever he wants to be; to feel as much love or anger or joy as we want to feel.
Another subsequent factor in determining our identity is the image, name, or
label given to us by society. In other words, what we believe other people
think of us. Most people participate in many groups friends, school, family,
jobs, clubs, churches and more each contributing to our identity. We have to
accept the death of the superman who is alone needing no one, inner directed and
indifferent to his surroundings. We see in Dostoevsky\'s novel Crime and
Punishment that when Raskolnkov separates himself from humanity by committing
murder that he could not survive. A person needs to understand that they are
responsible for their own choices but they cannot discount the fact that there
will always be a group that is essential to understanding their identity.
There is a far more important area than how man sees himself or how
society sees him, this area is where he has the most control over his own
identity. The area in which he has most control over his own identity is in the
area of what he is actually doing. In other words, man determines himself by the
choices he makes. Having this freedom of choice entails commitment and
responsibility. Since individuals are free to choose their own path they must
accept the responsibility of following their commitment wherever it leads. In
the play No Exit by Sartre the characters Estelle and Garcin thought of
themselves as being nobler than what they were, when in reality the choices they
made determined one to be a boy toy and the other to be a cruel coward. The
Bible also gives us some insight on this point. What made Moses Moses? The
fact that he made the choices he did. If Moses had stayed in Pharaoh\'s court,
if Moses had stayed in the desserts of Midian, or if Moses had refused to go to
Pharaoh, then he would not have been Moses. We have the freedom to choose and
we become what we choose to do.
Far to many people are locked into set patterns of thinking and living.
People resist change vigorously satisfied with the dull normality of the same
routines. One of the most vital ingredients to any fulfilling life is the
ability to accept change and choose to risk. Change for most people does not
always feel good but it is an important part in growing. Most people fear
change because they are afraid of the risks that it will bring. When people do
not conquer their fear all growth stops. The fear of growing of old is what
kept Estelle from being more than mere a boy toy. The fear of dying kept Garcin