Domestic Violence In America

A problem has become known and to many, they feel that it\'s about time that the
general public has taken notice. This problem has been a taboo for centuries and in the
mid nineties it has chosen to let itself be known, the problem that I am talking about is
domestic violence, it has ruined families, and demoralized the victims for years and now
because of the "trial of the century" we finally are allowed to discuss it in detail, without
fear of reprisal, now we get to familiarize ourselves with it and eventually after we get to
know all about it we can, through treatment, get rid of it. In this paper, I will discuss
problems with the so called epidemic of domestic violence.
This entire paper will be about domestic violence, and because of that I feel it is
important to note that "in most families men and women do not engage in physically
abusive behavior" (The Brown U.), but because the media feels that it is their public duty
to deceive us into believing that this problem is an "epidemic" (Domestic V.) we feel that,
that is the case. Webster\'s dictionary defines epidemic as "a rapid spreading of a disease;
to many people at the same time", this is not the case with domestic violence, one it didn\'t
just happen overnight, it has just been popularized overnight, domestic violence has been
going on from as far back as anyone can remember and probably farther than that, and
two, this is not affecting many people at the same timem, because, as I\'ve stated before, "in
most families men and women do not engage in physically abusive behavior". If you as
the reader gets anything out of this paper, it is important to me as the writer, that you find
that, while domestic violence is a major problem for some families, it is by no means an
The major reason domestic violence has become so widespread over the last couple
of years is because of the O. J. Simpson trial, as one person put it "the O. J. Simpson case
would do for domestic violence what Anita Hill did for sexual harassment" (Domestic V.).
The trial of the century brought a much needed attention to a issue that for too long was
pushed to the back burner; domestic violence was a major issue in the case and it became
evident, through the mass publicity of the case, that women weren\'t crying wolf all these
years, because of "the murder of Nicole Brown ... the media would focus squarely on and
engage in an unprecedented and lengthy dialogue about the issue of domestic violence"
(Domestic V.), it seems to always take something tragic for us to listen, but from this
particular tragedy allot of good has come out of it and we can take heart in the fact that
Nicole Brown did not die in vain.
Why do men abuse in the first place? That question has allot more than one
answer to it and among them are "he might be under stress, he was beaten as a child, he
lost his job ..." (Domestic V. for B.), the possibilities are endless, women or the abused has
always look at these reasons as excuses for the abusers to justify their doings, but
sometimes men, or the abusers, have a legitimate case in the reasons why they batter,
some, not all, but some men cannot help it, like the alcoholic who cannot stop drinking or
the compulsive gambler who can\'t stop gambling, an abuser hits because something
clicked inside of him when he was younger and now he can\'t stop. The reasons why
someone might find it appeasing to hit someone else is, he might of been raised in an
abusive household, maybe the abuser was abused, physically, or made to feel inferior by
someone else and now he is taking it out on the person who he feel he can beat, his
significant other. After all is said and done we must remember that the ultimate choice to
become an abuser was made by the person himself, but like the alcoholic and the
compulsive gambler with "intensive" treatment they can be helped to control their problem.
It\'s weird and even sad that with "over 4 million domestic assaults on women last
year" (Domestic V. for B.) it took the O. J. Simpson trial to finally illustrate the problem
that some families have problems and a problem that caused "2000-4000 women killed
each year"