Caring for Children and Young People

Unit SC14-Establish, sustain and disengage from relationships with clients

Legislation, policy and good practice

Question 4

The answers to question 1 and 3 influence the development of a relationship with a child a great deal. Due to the Foster Care Regulations which I explained in question 1 outline all the duties for the foster carer which enables them to tend to the individual needs of the children depending on their personality and background. This helps develop a relationship, as the child feels safe, secure and trust you because you are treating them as an individual and seeing to their needs. By the child knowing what he/she can and cannot do and the foster carers knowing what they can and cannot do makes it easier for a relationship to develop as the child and foster carers know what to expect from each other and what is required of them in order for a smooth relationship to be sustained and by knowing all these things enables the foster carers and child to concentrate on forming and developing a stable relationship.

When fostering there a number of meetings, which take place in, order to monitor the progress of the child such as reviews and P.E.P meetings. These are to insure that the development of the child is heading in the right direction. This can help and hinder the development of a relationship between the child and the foster carers. They help as they give the child an opportunity to voice their opinions regarding how they are being looked after, what changes need to be made and generally how their life is going. This helps, as the child will be able to suggest changes in their life, which are making them unhappy, and hopefully they will rectify any problems in order to make the child happier and then the relationship can be concentrated on.

The meetings can hinder the development of a relationship between the child and foster carers as there may be complaints from the child about the foster carer or vice versa which could cause friction in the relationship as both are at the meetings listening to each other. The parents are also invited to attend these meetings in most cases, which can create problems for the child as they may feel torn between the foster carers and their parents, leaving the child confused and feeling awkward, as they believe they have to take a side.

Question 5

There are many limits to the job of being a foster carer. One of the main ones is that parental responsibility is not granted to the foster carers, it is the local authorities and the child’s parents who have this. So foster carers do not have the opportunity to make decisions regarding the child’s care, contact, health and education. It is the foster carers ‘job’ to carry out the wishes of social services and care for the child in the way that the local authority permits them to do so. It is important to explain this at the beginning of the relationship between the foster carer and the child so that the child does not expect the foster carer to be able to change things that the child is not happy with. Also so that the child does not become angry with the foster carers for any decisions made. So that the child knows from the beginning that if any problems occur regarding any decisions made that they should consult with their social worker or parent.

A lack of money also limits the foster carers role because on many occasions it is not enough to provide everything that the child needs let alone what the child wants. The small amount of money a foster carer receives has to cover clothes, food, bills, holidays, outings and presents. The amount of money a foster carer receives does not always stretch to fill all these requirements which could leave the child feeling resentful towards the foster carers so it is important to explain to the child at the beginning of the relationship that they cannot get everything they want and it is not the foster carers fault. If they want something that the foster carer cannot get them they should be encouraged to save up