A True Friend


An Essay


Faculty of Modern Languages


English Philology


III Year Group H Student


Friends play an important role in a person’s life. They encourage when one is sad, they entertain when one is lonesome, and they listen when one has problems. There are varieties of friends: co-workers, social workers, schoolmates, and much more. Each type of friends is helpful in one way or the other. Co-workers could help solve problems and stress gain in the workplace. Friends from the community widen one’s prospective by introducing new people from different areas. Friends that grew up with would share the happiness and sadness one might has. However, friends that grew up with might not always be the best friends because they could faking it or been concealing some secrets. So, it is very important for one to recognize all the friends one has because good friends are hard to find. Good friends should not be measured only base on the time spent together. With good friends, one is able to have a more meaningful life. It is very difficult to have a definition of a good friend for everyone to agree upon. Since everyone has different personalities, friends one looks for could be very different. Nonetheless, there are some common characteristics shared among most of the definitions. The three main qualities that define a good friend are loyal, understanding, and encouraging.


Loyal is one of the main qualities one looks for when searching for friends. Trusts are gain by having trustworthy friends. At lease once in a person’s life, one would encounter a friend that likes to share secrets that belong to others with his/her friends. This could be very entertaining for his/her friends, yet the person with the secret would feel irritated. With no doubts, one would not desire to have a blabbermouth person as a friend; except one wants to spread rumours around or wants to find out other people’s secrets. So, it would be most comfortable to tell secrets to someone that is trustworthy. A loyal friend would protect their friends’ secrets under any conditions. Unless permission is given, friends should not publicize each other’s secrets. If friends do reveal others’ secrets, for example, it could destroy their friendship. A sample situation could be, one’s parents had a divorce and she shared this dilemma with a friend. As a friend, he should have comfort her to overcome this painful experience, however, he told other friends instead. The result of his action had created more pressure and stress for the girl. The girl told her friend because she wants to reduce her pain, yet her friend had failed to do so. So, the above example illustrated the importance of having a faithful friend. In addition, a good friend should be honest. If one has a friend that always fabricates, it would be unbeneficial to have this person as a friend. There is a friend that is very honest and would share almost everything; meanwhile, on the other hand, there is a friend that is very dishonest. One would choose to share his/her secrets with the honest person. The reason for this decision is no one in the world would want a friend to lies all the time and it would be difficult to clearly understand that person. Thus, true friends that are loyal and honest could maintain their friendship for a longer period of time.


Having good understanding between friends could help maintain the friendship for a longer time as well. Usually, best friends are people that understand each other clearly. When one knows there is someone that understands and supports the things s/he does, it is very likely one would have better achievements. For example, if this person has no one that understands what s/he thinks, this person will feel alone and unconfident. Part of developing self-confidence is by having people to support the ideas one has. In the lives of successful people, there are a lot of supporters that agree with their decisions. This is the encouragement that gives the successful people to continue in their career and to believe in themselves. So, the role of being a good friend and supporter is very important since it could have a great affect in one’s self-esteem and confidence. Communication