A Portrait of a True Friend


English 101


September 29, 1997


Sheís my best friend, Anna. Some, well, most people really do not understand what those words mean. A best friend is a connection that goes far beyond going together to the mall every weekend or being in the same class since first grade. Itís understanding through silence every thought, every move every breath. Itís something intangible and yet so real that a moment without it can leave you like a fish on dry land, gasping. Itís the laughter that no one else appreciates or the silence that no one else notices. Itís late night conversations with a cup of coffee or a bottle of wine; itís tears that no one else can understand; itís forgiveness for all those idiosyncrasies that nobody else could forgive you.


The first person she fell in love with, she stayed with for a year. She was sixteen at the beginning of their relationship and fell in love deeply and irreversibly. From the moment that they met, she in her characteristically sober manner, with which she approaches all matters (whether of the heart or of daily life), said that they did not belong together. Everything he stood for and represented, she was against and vice versa. I asked her once how she could be in such a serious relationship with a person who should if not be her enemy then definitely not her friend. She answered with a bit of a smile, as if looking down at me with ancient wisdom. She said she loved him for all the good things in him that had nothing to do with his views on life. It seemed like such a generic, unsatisfactory answer to me at first. Later I realized that it takes great strength of character to separate other peopleís strengths from their weaknesses.


Sheís my best friend.